Deep Questions To Ask Before Going Too Far In Relationship Continued.......
11 If your parents didn’t like me, would you stick up for me?
In-laws can be a very positive or destructive force in a relationship. They may like you now, but if something happened to change the dynamics, who would your spouse back? To be a couple, you have to promise to have your spouse’s back, even when it means standing up to your parents.
12 Do you often feel lonely?
If someone is lonely, they are more likely to want a closer relationship where you do everything together. If you are more of an independent soul, that could leave one person always feeling isolated and sad. That will eventually lead to problems.
13 If I asked you to do something you weren’t comfortable with, would you do it?
There are times in a relationship when someone may want or need something from you that may be uncomfortable for you. Ideally, you want someone who is willing to stand up for themselves and what they want, but you have to know to what extent. If they always put you first, it can lead to losing respect for them. If they always put themselves first, it can make you feel less loved. It is important to know where they stand on this issue and what their beliefs are with regard to what you should do for your partner in a relationship.
14 Who is more important—you or the person you love?
Do they put the person they love before themselves, or do they believe their needs go first? The way that they answer may give you a clue about what is truly inside.
15 Do you care how many people I have slept with?
Are they a jealous person? Every time you see an old love, are they going to make an issue of it, or use it to belittle you, or make you feel poorly? If they don’t care, maybe you want them to a little. Figure out which end of the spectrum they fall on.
16 What is the worst thing anyone can say to or about you?
What is it that defines a bad person for them? If they think the worst thing anyone can think of them is that they are selfish, you are likely to have found someone who puts others first. If they don’t want someone to think they are poor, you probably have someone who is worried about appearances. Who do they want to be?
17 Are children better seen and not heard?
How do they view children? Do they want to parent as a team, or is it couple first, children second? Neither is right, but it is important to know how they view children in a relationship and what place kids will hold.
18 What behavior is a deal breaker?
Do they believe that behavior like bullying or crying are deal breakers? If smoking is a no-no, you should know that before you admit that you smoke when you drink. You can’t hide it forever, nor do you want to, whatever the behavior is.
19 How many times a week do you think married people should have sex?
What are their expectations about what a healthy sexual relationship is? Most people think sex should happen all the time in the beginning. Then, when children come along, romance and sex take a backseat. It is important to know how much they value sex in a relationship over the long term.
20 How adventurous are you in the bedroom?
If you think that the key to a healthy sex life is trying new things, then it is critical to know whether someone is willing to be open and share new sexual experiences with you, or if missionary is all that they are interested in trying.
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