Deep Questions To Ask Before Going Too Far In A Relationship
Stopping yourself from falling for the wrong person is easier than mending a broken heart. These deep questions will tell you who they really are.
On our previous post we have discussed some of these questions to ask before actually consider settling down. Here are more questions you should ask. No Knowledge is a waste.
20 How adventurous are you in the bedroom?
If you think that the key to a healthy sex life is trying new things, then it is critical to know whether someone is willing to be open and share new sexual experiences with you, or if missionary is all that they are interested in trying.
21 You have an extra $1000—what do you do with it?
Would they spend it on you or them? Would they save it or spend it? This question will tell you if they are generous or stingy with their money.
22 Would you go to a movie by yourself?
How comfortable are they with themselves and being alone? People who are okay being by themselves are more comfortable in their skin and don’t need someone to make them happy. They want to have someone to make their life more meaningful, rather than fulfill a need.
23 Do you like talking about politics?
How open are they to different opinions? Do they judge people for what they believe? Often, someone who doesn’t want to engage in a touchy subject either gets too upset by conflict, or worries it will alter the way that they view you. It is important to be on the same political wavelength, but opinions change. Are they open to new ideas and discussing uncomfortable things?
24 Did you hate any children growing up and why did you hate them?
Were they the bully or the object of bullying? The playground is where we decide what behavior is acceptable, and what is not. What is unacceptable behavior to them?
25 Has someone ever broken your heart?
Are you going to be dealing with someone else’s baggage? If someone broke their heart, they are likely to have residual trust issues that will pop up in the future. It is important to find out if they have been let down, and how, so you know if they are likely to guard their heart.
26 When do you think it is appropriate for a guy to cry?
Is he a “guy’s guy,” or does she think crying is weak? This question tells you whether you can be yourself around someone and be as sensitive as you want to be. How much can you let your guard down and be who you are?
27 Are your parents proud of you?
Are they constantly feeling not good enough, or as if they let people down? Someone who is confident in their accomplishments will say that they have parents who are proud of them. It will also tell you how they were treated growing up, and if their parents fostered their emotional well-being.
28 What do you want people to say and remember about you when you die?
What is it that they value in human beings and hold as the epitome of what is important in a lifetime?
29 How long do you think you are going to live?
How optimistic are they about their life? If they believe they are going to die young, question them about why they have such low hopes for a long, happy future. Are they fatalistic, pessimistic, or even a hypochondriac?
30 What makes your best friend your best friend?
What are the qualities they think make someone a good friend, and what is it about their best friend that allows them to take that important role?
These deep questions are sometimes hard to ask, because we don’t really want to know the answers. If you are falling in love with someone, it is better to find out that they aren’t what you believed they were at the start, than to be blindsided in the end.
If you think that the key to a healthy sex life is trying new things, then it is critical to know whether someone is willing to be open and share new sexual experiences with you, or if missionary is all that they are interested in trying.
21 You have an extra $1000—what do you do with it?
Would they spend it on you or them? Would they save it or spend it? This question will tell you if they are generous or stingy with their money.
22 Would you go to a movie by yourself?
How comfortable are they with themselves and being alone? People who are okay being by themselves are more comfortable in their skin and don’t need someone to make them happy. They want to have someone to make their life more meaningful, rather than fulfill a need.
23 Do you like talking about politics?
How open are they to different opinions? Do they judge people for what they believe? Often, someone who doesn’t want to engage in a touchy subject either gets too upset by conflict, or worries it will alter the way that they view you. It is important to be on the same political wavelength, but opinions change. Are they open to new ideas and discussing uncomfortable things?
24 Did you hate any children growing up and why did you hate them?
Were they the bully or the object of bullying? The playground is where we decide what behavior is acceptable, and what is not. What is unacceptable behavior to them?
25 Has someone ever broken your heart?
Are you going to be dealing with someone else’s baggage? If someone broke their heart, they are likely to have residual trust issues that will pop up in the future. It is important to find out if they have been let down, and how, so you know if they are likely to guard their heart.
26 When do you think it is appropriate for a guy to cry?
Is he a “guy’s guy,” or does she think crying is weak? This question tells you whether you can be yourself around someone and be as sensitive as you want to be. How much can you let your guard down and be who you are?
27 Are your parents proud of you?
Are they constantly feeling not good enough, or as if they let people down? Someone who is confident in their accomplishments will say that they have parents who are proud of them. It will also tell you how they were treated growing up, and if their parents fostered their emotional well-being.
28 What do you want people to say and remember about you when you die?
What is it that they value in human beings and hold as the epitome of what is important in a lifetime?
29 How long do you think you are going to live?
How optimistic are they about their life? If they believe they are going to die young, question them about why they have such low hopes for a long, happy future. Are they fatalistic, pessimistic, or even a hypochondriac?
30 What makes your best friend your best friend?
What are the qualities they think make someone a good friend, and what is it about their best friend that allows them to take that important role?
These deep questions are sometimes hard to ask, because we don’t really want to know the answers. If you are falling in love with someone, it is better to find out that they aren’t what you believed they were at the start, than to be blindsided in the end.
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